2015 is flying by and soon enough it will be 2016…But before life gets too crazy for you, make sure you look back and reflect on the past 12 months. In fact, it may be the most important thing you do all year.
It’s a good practice to look back at where you’ve been. It’s also a good practice to not let the past carry over into the present.
Managing the past and the present should come down to a simple formula. Here’s how I see it:
Good Experiences + Learned Experiences from the Bad – Bad Moments = Knowledge and Growth
For me, 2014 turned out to be an intense year on many fronts (which I briefly describe below). I experienced highs in many areas and deep lows in others.
The imbalance of these areas led me to a stressed environment all year long. Although this post is more about my past year, I hope that you will relate with many of the lessons and be able to apply them in your own life.
6 Lessons I Learned from 2014
1. Relationships should be guarded close
I struggled with some relationships in 2014 that led to awkward outcomes. I realized that in order to maintain a strong relationship, you need two things to work: Trust and Commitment. I’m not saying be guarded and put up a wall in your life, but instead I’m suggesting to create relationships that build trust and commitment. The real relationships we have are more valuable than most things we experience in life. Protect them with your life.
The real relationships we have are more valuable than most things we experience in life. Protect them with your life.
2. The people you choose to surround yourself with will determine your future
Is your inner circle affecting your success? Jim Rohn said it best when he said, ‘You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.’ He explains the law of averages in this video that I suggest watching.
Have you ever noticed when you hangout around healthy people that you tend to eat healthier and are more motivated to workout? The other side of this equation is also true.
I’ve also noticed this in wealth, energy, spirituality and relationships. Certain friends help me exceed in each of these categories and others don’t.
Don’t always be the one that pulls up the average in your group. Find a new group that pushes you to get to the top.
3. Know your numbers
I’m the son of an accountant which by no means makes me good with numbers. However, I learned that as an entrepreneur, my business is only as good as the numbers. I will make an honest effort at learning how basic bookkeeping and accounting works so I can better know the financial status of each of my businesses (and so should you).
On some level, most people can relate with this, even if it’s just budgeting for your family, it all applies.
4. Stay focused and finish your project
I find myself distracted quickly when it comes to project management, often so much that it’s hard for me to finish projects. Getting bored isn’t the reason I can’t finish projects. It’s the excitement of starting something that I enjoy and I don’t gain that energy towards the end of the project.
Towards the final quarter of 2014, I pushed myself to put a bow on projects that took me 9 months to launch including a book on Amazon, two courses on Udemy, and launching this blog. Now I know that I’m capable of completing projects quickly.
Now I know that I’m capable of completing projects quickly.
5. Push your mind and body to the limits
After walking on hot coals at UPW and watching Lone Survivor, I determined I’ve been weak both mentally and physically. I allowed my mind to hold me back from performing at an optimal level for a long time.
I allowed my mind to hold me back from performing at an optimal level for a long time. After determining this, I did my first crossfit competition with my wife, which was insanely difficult for my body to achieve but my mind told me I could do.
This was a game changer for me — Now I was able to push my workouts to the next level, which led me to start pushing myself in all areas of my life.
6. Get to know God in a real way
For me to have a good balance in life, my faith must be aligned and focused.
When this area of my life lacks focus, I go into a tailspin with the rest of my life.
I chose to make some big and small changes to help me gain better focus with God every single day. If you’re looking for a way to stay in the Word, check out the “Living by the Book” workbook.
Tony Robbins says, “Long ago, I realized that success leaves clues and that people who produce outstanding results do specific things to create those results. I believed that if I precisely duplicated the actions of others, I could reproduce the same quality of results that they had.”
This quote has stuck with me over the years as I observe successful people around me and “wins” that I have had both personally and professionally.
Live life in the present, without worrying about the past, but don’t forget the past, because it teaches us.
Continue to make this year one that counts.
Take Action for YOU:
- Take a quick audit of your relationships. Are there ways that you could mend hurt relationships or is it better to just end them? Do you feel trust and commitment with each friend or groups of friends?
- Evaluate your inner circle of people that influence you. Determine if they’re holding you back or pushing you to become better at each area of your life.
- Push yourself to the limits. Your body and mind are both capable of getting you to accomplish some incredible things. If you need help getting started, I would suggest attending Unleash the Power Within by Tony Robbins (even just his audio program of UPW) or attend Lifebook. These two programs have seriously changed my life forever.